Being a woman means being everything to everyone. You are called upon to organize, clean, fix, repair and love. It can be overwhelming at times. O Magazine writer Susan Colon sat down with the phenomenal Jada Pinkett-Smith to discuss her Aha moment and how she balances it all.
About a year and a half ago, I realized I was about to hit a wall. My husband, Will Smith, and I were going through a major transition—besides acting, directing, writing, and producing, we’d started the Will and Jada Smith Family Foundation to support urban families through education, health, and arts programs. At the same time, I was trying to keep my family life healthy and strong and take care of our kids, Trey, 16; Jaden, 10; and Willow, 8. I’ve always been a caretaker; I think a lot of women are. We take care of everybody else first, and very rarely do we think about ourselves.
I grew up in a neighborhood in Baltimore that was like a war zone, so I never learned to trust that there were people who could help me. I was also stuck in the idea that taking care of others was the way to create good relationships. As a result, I tried to micromanage my world.