To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified. —Isaiah 61:3.
Lately, I have been baffled by men, well let’s just say some men…and especially the experiences with men some of my friends and I have been having lately. I was in an angry place yesterday, but the one whom offended me did see themselves and offered some version of an apology. So thanks, but that ship has sailed buddy! Anywho…the worst part was not the offense but that I let someone’s actions dictate my mood for the rest of the day. I hate that. I call these moments and people “time stealers”. The thing about time is you can’t get it back and the thing about “time stealers” is they usually don’t give a *&%$@ (as my momma would say “excuse my french” LOL). It’s amazing to me how selfish and self-centered some people are…you can be in a “relationship” with a person for years and they will still look at you crazy when you have an expectation of them, or if they decide to explore their “options” they are quick to tell you that the two of you are not in a “relationship”…no matter that you supply the majority of their needs, physical, emotional, and otherwise (or so you think anyway)…no matter they have a key to your place, hang out with your family, say such special things to you, expect that you will be there for whatever and whenever…I mean these are all hypothetical of course!…at 36 years old no one is having a key to my place unless their name is on the lease or deed also LOL…but I digress. I am talking about those things we do as women to say “I trust you” “I love you” “You can count/depend on me” “Choose me”…you feel me?
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 1John 4:18
I’m the daughter of a great woman, who is the daughter of a great woman…now I’m just trying to be a great woman.
