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Death to Facebook and their invasive notifications! Seriously! Not too long ago, I was scrolling through my news feed and realized another one of my “friends” was engaged, and the comments kept rolling in.


“Ah man, I’m so happy for the both of you.”

“When’s the wedding? I better get an invite!”

The comments continued for God knows how long. So I did the polite thing, hit the “LIKE” button and kept it moving. I logged off and checked Instagram, and I was only two or three pictures in, and what do I see? Another college buddy of mine who posted pics of their wedding.

“You look gorgeous!”

“So proud of you two! Congrats again.”

“That dress is everything!”

By this point, I was scared to check Twitter because If I saw an I’m-expecting-my-first child-Tweet, I don’t think I would’ve been able to handle it!

I’m six years removed from college and I feel like I’m just getting started in a lot of aspects of my life. I’ve finally found my dream gig, working in the entertainment-media industry after years of trying to climb through the back window. But now that I’m finally here, folks are starting families and buying homes. It makes me wonder–Am I behind in life?

I know. I know. Everyone moves at their own pace, yada yada yada. It’s not about crossing the finish line first, blah blah blah. You get there when you get there…all that jazz. But these folks and I are the same age, yet I feel like they’re accomplishing so much more. Why? What are they doing? Or better yet, what am I not doing?

And it’s not just on a personal level. Professionally, they’ve made leaps and bounds as well, getting promotions and becoming “executive directors of finance acquisition” or something else really important and here I am, just starting out.

I’m 27-years-old and I still live at home with my mom, but aside from being almost 30, I don’t even feel ready to tackle some of the things my college friends are, like parenting, marriage. You know, all those adult things college kids eventually mature and end up doing.

What does that say about me as a person? To a certain degree I feel like a slacker. Like, I’m the only one not progressing and making smart decisions. 

I could be putting way too much pressure on myself, but when you see others achieve things you want, before you, it makes you wonder if you’ve taken one too many wrong turns.

We’re going to keep this one short, ladies. But am I alone here? Did I simply make too many mistakes in my early 20s that I’m now paying for? Or is it just not my time yet? I’m wise enough to know that my time will come. But sometimes I feel like I’m going to be the last one picked for the team, if you get my drift. 

C’mon, talk to me.  Let’s get a conversation going.

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