In my usual Facebook prowl for website content, I happened upon this post from a Facebook friend. It seemed interesting; so, I clicked the link and began reading. I was pleasantly surprised at what I read. The article is by Richelle Ransom, a Florida A&M graduate who was competing for a spot on Oprah’s Your OWN Show. What I found is that though Richelle and I have never met, we share a similar sentiment on relationships. We both love black men. In fact, we stand firmly on the belief that we not only want to be with a black man, but that we need to be with a black man.
Let me explain.
I have a deep love for those things that are authentically black American. That means everything that can be considered a part of the black American experience and culture – I love. I take the good with the bad. I love it all, and that includes black men. Let me say that I have never experienced a relationship with a man of another race; and honestly, I have never felt the need to explore a relationship outside of my race. I haven’t felt the need for the very reason that Richelle states:
I know that they tell me that there aren’t enough of you out there for me to love, but that’s never been my vision nor reality. I know that they tell me you don’t have the education that I have, but I know to the contrary. … Now they want to tell me that it’s partly my fault. They tell me that I ask far too much of my Black Man. “Why must this Man that you ask for have education?” and “Why must this Black Man have ambition and drive?” This is what they inquire. They ask me these questions as if you don’t exist. As if you are extinct. But I know to the contrary. Not only do you exist, you flourish. Your ability to grow and achieve inspite of your conditions is your best attribute. Yes, I want the best and greatest from you, because I know that within you, it exists.
Good black men exist, and I am going to keep waiting on my black prince. While I wait I am going to learn how to be everything he needs, which includes learning to submit to his leadership and learning how to do those just because things that make a black man smile and warms his heart (I will write a post on that next week).
To close I say: